Kinky Party Games

It's Friday night and I'm playing nurse maid to an injured dog this evening.  So I got to thinking, what kind of games do kinky folk like to play at their get togethers?  Being relatively new to BDSM, I can't draw on my own experience here so I started searching the internet.  Here's some of what I found!

On the Albany Power Exchange, I found a great list of BDSM Party Games.  Some of the activities described included:

1.  Nipple Tug-o-War - Using tweezer type nipple clamps connected by a chain, attach one clip to each participant and have them pull away from each other.  My guess is you need to have a line on the floor and the first one pulled across loses - or the first one to lose their clip loses.

2.  Cock Ring Toss - They suggested it would be great to have a real cock for this but they used a dildo and plastic rings - sort of like the x-rated version of ring toss. 

3.  Clothespin game - The host or hostess places a certain number of clothespins on a sub.  The sub's Dom/me is blindfolded and then has to remove them.  The Dom/me is told the number of clothespins but not the location.  The Dom/me who removes the clothespins from his/her sub in the shortest time wins.  Subs cannot give hints and are supposed to stay quiet throughout.

For the full list check out http://www.frugaldomme.com/esoteric/techniq23.htm

I came across a list geared toward femdom parties.  These had more nudity and sexual activity than the last list, but some could be adapted to enable them to played where full nudity was not permitted.

1.  Mistress Says - a kinky version of Simon Says.  The Mistresses issue commands rapidly to their subs such as "fondle your balls", "kiss my shoe", "squeeze your left nipple".  Those preceded by "Mistress says" should be obeyed.  Those that do not should be ignored.  Subs who make mistakes are disqualified until only one remains.

2. Peg Board - In the U.K. clothespins are called "pegs".  In this game, the hostess begins by saying "one."  Every Mistress places one clothespin on her sub.  The hostess, then says, "two," and every Mistress then places another clothespin on her sub.  This process continues.  Once a sub needs to remove a clothespin, they are disqualified.  The game continues until only one sub is left (or you run out of clothespins.)

3.  Cunning Linguist - You can imagine from the title what this one is about.  It is basically a contest to see which sub licks their Mistress to orgasm in the shortest amount of time.  Clearly, this game will only work in environments where sexual activity is permitted at the party.

For the full list of femdom party games, go to http://cuckold-chastity-belt-stories.com/femdom/page_femdom_party_games.html

At Ms. Demmie's web page, I found a great list of general guidelines to ensure successful games at any party.  http://www.msdemmie.com/pages/toptrickspartygames/

She suggests that all games need ground rules.  Most importantly that the host/hostess should be sure that all guests are comfortable with the games and the possibilities each entails.  She also suggests a common safe word be used so if any guest feels pushed past their comfort zone, they can use it and disengage.  Following the general BDSM guidelines of safe, sane and consensual, she asserts that games should not involve extreme play or high risk, all guests have discussed the possibilities and weighed the pros and cons, and all guests, after discussing boundaries and risk have consented freely to participating.

This site offers several party game ideas. For pass the parcel, you will need:

• a small BDSM gift for the prize
• brown wrapping paper
• tape
• a pen or marker
• music

Make up a list of "forfeits" within agreed limits.  She doesn't actually define "forfeits" but I imagine it is a list of actions that will be written on each layer of wrapping.  The better the host/hostess knows the guests, the more intimate or specific the forfeits can be.  Each person holding the parcel when the music is stopped must complete the action before removing the wrapper.  The guests continue to pass the parcel until the music stops again. The person holding the parcel reads the forfeit aloud and then completes the action before removing the paper.  The process continues until the final layer of paper is removed.

For the other two games she suggests go to her website (URL above).  If you check out the Library tab at the top of the page, you will get a menu of other games, including games to play with shoes, food, clothespins and panties.  Some of these games may be best played by couples or small groups who know each other, but there is certainly lots of variety there!

Have fun!