Evolving Relationships

This weekend, I picked up Pet on Saturday evening and he spent the better part of two days and nights with me and my partner.  The three of us joke about how he has become a part of our “pack,” but that’s exactly what seems to be happening.  He is part of the family now and we look forward to our time together. 

I can’t say if our arrangement is common or not, as I really don’t have a point of comparison.  It has evolved over a period of months as we have gotten to know one another.  We have taken things slowly and been as sensitive as possible to each other’s aspirations and fears.  We have been respectful of each other’s limits and approached new things with an open mind.  We recognize that all three of us are experiencing personal growth in the midst of our collective relationship and that we all aren’t in the same “place” at the same time. 

This weekend was spent labouring on the studio/play space we are building next to our home.  There was little time actually spent in play overall, but this was the longest time we’ve spent in each other’s company.  I am still amazed at how natural it feels.

I can’t speak about how it is for them, but I have never felt as nurtured and loved as I do when we are together even doing mundane things like working outdoors or watching a movie.  It is the way we share a joke between us, or make a comment that only the other two would understand.  I feel I am the connection between them and the reason we share more than typical friendship.  These two beautiful people have graciously consented let me share aspects of myself with them as individuals, and together, and have built their own friendship as well. 

It is humbling, empowering and uplifting to be loved in such a way.  My life has never been as rich and full as it is at this moment.