Our local kink community is preparing for its first larger scale event - two days of workshops where folks can share their knowledge and experiences with others and two evenings of play parties. I've submitted (and had accepted) a proposal for a ninety minute workshop on CBT (cock and ball torment/torture). Now I'll be the first to admit that I'm no expert - but I will lay claim to being a safe, sane and enthusiastic beginner who is eager to share with others what a blast this can be!
I vividly recall my first very tentative steps into CBT. Pet had lent me his copy of Hardy Haberman's "Family Jewels" which I had devoured; however, I was still apprehensive. I was fighting against a lot of conditioning and experience with men who preferred a woman to be careful with their tender bits. And not only was I new to CBT, but I was brand new as a top as well.
Mr. Haberman recommends you learn from an experienced top; however, that's a tall order in my part of the world, so I did the next best thing. I approached CBT much like I've approached DIY projects in the past. First I do some research and assess my own skill set. Then I lay out a plan to take on only what I believe I can reasonably complete. So armed with some good information and enthusiastic partner-in-crime (aka - Pet), I took a leap of faith and landed in a brand new realm of sensation play. Over the past eleven months, Pet and I have expanded our CBT repertoire from simple squeezing and pressure, to include a broad range of impact and sensation play techniques, genital bondage and a variety of toys. And if Pet's reactions are any indication, my skill in this area has certainly grown as well!
So while I'm far from an expert, I think I can certainly offer some guidance on how to safely begin exploring CBT. I've drafted a class outline and have begun gathering the information I'll need. I'll be offering some handouts for participants to take with them. As well, I'll have some pictures and short video clips illustrating the use of techniques described and toys shown in the workshop. I have about eight weeks to prepare.
If the workshop goes well, perhaps I'll post some of the information here for my readers. Wish me luck!